Stop!! Being a helicopter parent can sabotage your child’s learning

Parenting is not an easy task. Apparently, it’s a journey that sways in different directions, projecting itself as a roller coaster ride that may soar up or subside with the test of time.  While flipping through the pages of a magazine, I banged on to an article about Helicopter parenting and to my astonishment; it appeared to be one of the most common phenomenon in the societal settings worldwide. But when I dived into the depth of the article I realized that helicopter parents may impair their children of their self- esteem and independence by hovering and interfering in each and every aspect of their child’s life.

Courtesy : www.csmonitor.com
Courtesy : www.csmonitor.com
If you shoot a question at a child, either of the parents may come to his/her rescue by answering the question. This may also be followed by helping kids in their homework or being overly possessive about the child. Parents often feel that they are protecting their children from mishaps and the bad world outside. But this is not true as children may tend to be completely dependent on their parents for every task that they come across.

Self-esteem is an integral part of a child’s personality and can be extremely helpful in determining their respective abilities and success in life. Here are a few tips for helicopter parents to help their kids in unleashing their hidden potentials and paving their way towards a brighter future.

  1. Empowering kids: Empowerment can be interpreted differently. Decision making forms the gist*gist*
    ➤ (n) the central meaning or theme of a speech or literary work
    ➤ (n) the choicest or most essential or most vital part of some idea or experience
    …by BeeDictionary.com
    of empowerment. A vital skill that we develop as human beings is of decision making. Sometimes children have to be given their due share of taking up their own decisions that in turn motivates them to build their self-confidence. This is a crucial area of development that unfortunately remains unexplored; due to the undue indulgence of helicopter parents who never let their kids go through the entire process on their own.

  2. Teach the consequences of an act: Newton’s third law states that “For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”. So, children have to know that their acts can always have positive or a negative consequences. Life is a learning process. For instance: If a child refrains from doing his/her homework, every parent is under an obligation to tell him/her about the consequences of not doing their respective homework and that they have to abide by the punishments rendered in that regard.

Most of the helicopter parents will either do the homework of their child or simply not send them to the school to avoid punishment. In such scenarios, parents don’t let their children learn the basic lessons of life.

  1. Understanding rejection and dealing with it: Dealing with a rejection and overcoming from it requires a lot of courage and understanding. Rejections and failures have to be dealt with an optimistic attitude.
    For instance: If a student fails in exam, he/she has to take it up as a challenge and improvise on their areas of development by working hard.Helicopter parents can seem extremely difficult to handle during such scenarios. They may either protect their child by shielding them or keep them away from situations that can cause rejection or failure.Fear of rejection or failure cannot help in building the self-esteem of your child. Due to their hovering nature and extremely possessive attitude helicopter parents are crushing the developmental spectrum of your child’s personality.