Emotional Intelligence

Intelligence quotient or more commonly known as the IQ has been emphasized deeply in terms of measuring ones intelligence level, success, and ability to perform at work/school. Another idea that is currently taking the world by a storm is ones emotional quotient (EQ). Psychologists believe that ones emotional quotient or emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability of an individual to recognize their own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior. A high EQ level is being equated with greater mental health, good performance, and high leadership skills.

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Emotional Intelligence has been divided in to five main categories. Each category talks about an aspect of EQ that affects our emotional health in different ways. This model is known as the Mixed Model and has been introduced by Daniel Goleman who is a pioneer in the field of Emotional Intelligence. These categories include:

  1. Self-awareness – the ability to know one’s emotions, strengths, weaknesses, drives, values, and goals and recognize their impact on others. You can manage your emotions if you are able to recognize and evaluate them. The main elements of self-awareness include awareness of your emotions, and your confidence of yourself about your capabilities.
  2. Self-regulation – self-regulation is the ability to control and channel disruptive emotions and impulses, and adapting to changing circumstances. One has little control over when and what triggers an emotion, however we can choose how long we let that emotion last. It is important to use techniques that help eliminate negative emotions like recasting a situation is a more positive light, meditation, and exercise. The main elements of self-regulation involve self-control, high standards of honesty and integrity, conscientiousness, adaptability, and innovation.
  3. Social Skill – social skill is the skill of managing relationships to move people in the desired direction. Here one mainly focuses on developing good interpersonal skills that can determine ones success in life and career. It is important to be able to understand, empathize, and negotiate in this highly connected world. Main elements of social skills include good persuasion tactics, communication, leadership, change catalyst, conflict management, building relationships, collaborations, and team synergy.
  4. Motivation – being driven to achieve for the sake of achievement. It is important to have clear goals and a driven mind combined with a positive attitude to achieve something. Motivation is made up of several factors that include achievement drive, commitment, initiative, and optimism.
  5. Empathy – taking in consideration the feelings of others especially during a decision making process. The more skillful you are at decoding the feelings behind others’ signals the better you can control the signals you send them. An empathic person is good at anticipating and recognizing others needs, developing and pushing other peoples abilities, leveraging diversity, political awareness, and innate*innate*
    ➤ (a) not established by conditioning or learning
    ➤ (s) being talented through inherited qualities
    ➤ (s) present at birth but not necessarily hereditary; acquired during fetal development
    …by BeeDictionary.com

All of us are born with certain EI, which can be built upon and enhanced for greater achievement in terms of work, interpersonal relationship, self-growth, and general understanding. However, these traits are not in born talents but capabilities that can be harbored and learned in order to develop and achieve higher emotional potential.